- Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal- on time. This is a way of letting him know you've been thinking about him, and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.
- Prepare yourself : Take fifteen minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with alot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day my need a lift.
- Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.
- Prepare the children: Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces if the are small, comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
- Minimize the noise: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a a warm smile and be glad to see him.
- Some Dont's: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he's late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day.
- Make him comfortable: Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warn drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.
- Listen to him: You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.
- Make this evening his: Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment; instead, try to understand his world or strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.
- The goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can relax.
Thursday, July 8, 2010
"Good Wife's Guide"
This is supposed to be the "Good Wife's Guide" taken from a home economics text book in the 1950's but I beg to differ! After much research on the subject I discovered that the home economics text book has never been found and the rumor that it was taken from Good Housekeeping magazine has been discredited as well. Making this a possible hoax. Another aspect to look at is the picture is from the cover of a John Bull magazine cover that was published in the UK from the late 1940s to the early 1960's. It depicts the epitome of British life not American. Although I do agree with what the article teaches as good guidelines to live by and can't hurt your marriage in anyway possible. I'm sure my husband would love it. While typing this article I realized that I do most of these things already except dusting the tables, cleaning up the kids or making them be quiet, putting a ribbon in my hair, minimize the noise or taking his shoes off. But for the most part I'm in line with these guidelines. However I did not want to imply that this is what the women were taught in the 1950's I did want to post these as possible guidelines to mix up the marriage and give it a freshness if your feeling like your in a rut. These guidelines can start a fire in your marriage if you'll try them. I know I am! Anyway this is what the article says.